A popular form of entertainment that is featured in most nightclubs these days is lap dancing but you may be unaware that you can give your spouse this kind of sensuous entertainment right in the privacy of your home. Lap dancing is easy to learn and will give you and your partner an interesting and exciting twist to your love life. It is possible to learn how to give a lap dance by reading books and there are also free videos online that you can watch. Here in this article we are going to talk about some basic facts related to how to give a lap dance including costumes, settings and dance moves.

1. Practice Makes Perfect - In order to learn how to give a lap dance you need an armchair and it is good to have a partner with whom you can rehearse the moves. If the dance performance is planned as a surprise then an empty armchair can be used for practice. However when you have the company of your partner, request him to be seated on the armchair with his hands on the sides. As suggested by the basic rule of lap dancing, touching the dancer should be avoided while the performance is on because it would be huge distraction.

2. Sexy Outfit - You will need to think about what kind of sexy outfit that you will wear while you are performing the lap dance. Keep in mind the kinds of lingerie or clothing that your partner finds erotic when choosing your costume. It doesn't have to be fancy or outrageous as long as your partner finds it exciting.

3. Sexy Decor - The room where the lap dance performance is intended to take place should be set accordingly. That doesn't mean that people have to redecorate their homes before dancing but it does mean that a little thought and care should go into setting the room for a romantic mood. Dim lights or scarves over lights will help to set the mood as will some candles\A dimly lit setting would be ideal and for this you can just drape a colored soft cloth over the light fittings. You can even use candles. Play music which will match up the type of lap dance that you will be performing. One idea is to start with slower music and work up to a faster beat. Make sure that you are not distracted in any way during the dance! Now that the lap dancer knows how to set the mood it is time to learn how to lap dance by executing those erotic dance moves.

4. Move Erotically - The person that is getting the lap dance must be seated over the armchair with their arms by their sides and their hands holding the edge of the seat. This will keep them out of the way of the dancer. When the music starts the dancer should make eye contact with her partner and move towards him in a sensuous way. She should place one knee between his legs and both hands on the back of the chair. The dancer should move her body in a sensuous figure eight with her back arched so that her partner is presented with her breasts. She should then rest an elbow on the arm rest and raise one leg up onto the back of the chair then slowly run her hands downward and then upwards towards her crotch. At this point the dancer slides down her partners body contacting him with her breasts, stomach and hips.

5. Finish Up - After sliding down her partner the lap dancer should rise slowly while turning so that her partner can appreciate her buttocks and legs and run her hands down and then up her legs while arching her back. Then while keeping her hands over the crotch area she should turn and head and look over her shoulder at her partner with an erotic look. Then she should take a couple of steps backwards with her back still turned and place both hands over the chair's arm rests. Then lowering her body towards her partner, she should try to move her hips in a sensuous, rhythmic figure eight and then a back and forth motion. That completes a lap dance routine and the dancer can decide if she will allow her partner to go ahead with his response!