Everyone takes classes in school for various academic subjects, but also for useful skills like shop and home economics. Unfortunately, no one ever teaches young people how to present themselves in important business or social settings, despite the fact that these can be tremendously important in determining eventual success in life. Fortunately, all those under-educated graduates can put a capstone on their years by reading books on small talk.

Some people just have a natural gift for light conversation, and never seem fail at being just interesting enough for the occasion. These are often people who were raised in good families, which brings up the point that conversational skill is often an upper class attribute few people enjoy. Much of the advantage of attending all the right schools has nothing to do with academics, and everything to do with socialization.

By comparison, those making the move into the professions from a working class background might be talented and have a great work ethic, but because of that background might lack skill in light conversation. A stock literary figure remains the newly-arrived industrialist who lacks in "breeding, " who is simply too rich not to be invited to the parties, but is broadly unpopular. This sort is usually marked by his coarse use of language.

It isn't difficult to imagine, or for that matter simply recall, situations in which it is to one's advantage to be able to make light conversation. An obvious example is dating, which includes everything from an effective flirtation in a movie line to give and take during an actual date. It includes everything from flirting to pick up lines.

Business also affords a variety of circumstances in which one's ability to make conversation might make all the difference. There are any number of wealthy people whose big break came when they charmed the right person during a random elevator ride. There are also those obvious occasions, such as a job interview, or entertaining a potential client.

Life is full of scenarios that seem breezy on the surface, but which quietly seethe with tension. For an up and coming poet, an established poet's reading can be a place where one makes all important contacts. But this must always be done with a casual air, without seeming like one is too obviously "on the make."

It is important to avoid being coarse while trying to be witty, and it is important not to try too hard at being witty. Good conversation requires passing knowledge of several topics, but one mustn't become intemperate about any of them. The most important talent is the talent for liking people one encounters. For this there is no substitute.

It is equally important not to overlook those who do not obviously offer whatever one is looking for. Socialize broadly and unhurriedly, enjoying all types of people, not just the best placed or prettiest. Conversational skills are about building networks of associates, and one measures success at party by whether one gets invited to others.